I was catfished

An ode to drinking your calories, reality tv, and scalp massagers

The Weekly Crumbs

Date: 9.25.24

Aloha, everyone! Another Wednesday is here for us to enjoy. Personally, I’m freshly showered after a lunchtime yoga class and I’m enjoying the cool breeze that signals fall is coming mixed with the sun bearing down on me that shows summer isn’t quite ready to let go. Let’s get into the juicy details!

On my plate

This week was the official first week of fall. How?! I celebrated by purchasing some miniature Lofthouse cookies with Halloween sprinkles on them, as one does. But I’m also not quite ready to let summer go, because for the past four years, we’ve lived in the mountain west where it really doesn’t start getting to true fall weather until the end of October. And even then, we have warm days still.

Amanda subscribed to Bon Appetit magazine in a semi-collaging-based fury of excitement and has been loving reading the magazines and finding recipes to make (we have yet to actually fully collage with one!) She found this delectable recipe we plan to make before the end of the month. I got the ingredients at the grocery store for less than $20 and it has fruit in it, so basically it’s a budget and health goals win-win.

peaches + goat cheese + chili crisp = heaven

On my big screen

For the first time, I’m not completely behind on a pop culture event that is currently happening, and I’ve been catfished. Have you been watching The Secret Lives of Mormon Wives on Hulu?!!!! Please let me know so that I can talk to you about my feelings about it, because honey, there are a lot.

Here comes the catfish scenario: This show was marketed as a documentary. As in, watch this to see us explain what the scandal was, or what their secret lives entailed, with some interviews and recordings thrown in. I am a lover of that type of documentary or rehash of a story, evidenced by my consumption of the LulaRich documentary, WeCrashed, the stylized retelling of the of WeWork crash featuring Anne Hathaway and Jared Leto, and the Inventing Anna show on Netflix. So I was a bit confused when this started playing and suddenly I was thrown back into the catty drama of high school except with more religion and more scandal and I hadn’t braced for that kind of media.

Amanda and I binged the first two episodes late last week and finished the remaining six yesterday. We literally couldn’t wait another second to figure out what the heck was going on. It was a solid 7 hours of television watching that had our minds completely BLOWN. EVERY episode was crazier than the last! And as someone who personally seriously considered moving to Salt Lake City………. yikes. At the end of it we had to ask ourselves: are we going to turn into reality tv people? (No shade). It’s addictive in a deliciously frustrating way.

Between the slivers of time where the girls actually looked out for each other and provided solid advice, there were far too many over-the-top parties, backward hats, relationship red flags, and times when I wanted to scream at the tv for my liking. We even made bingo cards because things were getting soooo predictably infuriating. But, yaknow, we did still watch every episode.

One thing I can appreciate was that throughout the entire eight episode series, the production team put a kairon under every woman’s interview stating their name and age. So even on episode seven, you could look and say “Ohh, so THAT is Demi, I had her confused with the hair stylist” because, reader, telling them apart was incredibly difficult.

I had been banning myself from googling anything about this show so that I wouldn’t spoil any plot points. So, reader, imagine my rage when we had consumed all of this media and expected some sort of wrap-up, to have nothing explained. Never, not once, hear the girls utter the words “dirty soda” or explain what it was. Only at the very beginning did we see a diy soda bar that had coffee creamer and soda in it (no explanation provided, we just saw the images) and only at the very end did we see them enter a soda shop (Utah’s “coffee shop”). All that time I could have been drinking an entire day’s worth of calories while judging these apparent reality tv stars and I WASN’T in the name of not spoiling any plot points. Almost unforgivable. We did have plenty of wine (you seriously need it to get through this show) so the calories and sugar were consumed nonetheless.

One last note before I throw my computer into a wall: No final ‘wrap up’ of the group, not even an ‘after the final rose’-esque “let’s get everyone back together and talk about our freakin drama” or “where are they now?” type of episode. I have to listen to multiple other podcasts to even get a glimmer of understanding?? SPOILER: The ending was horrifically anti-climactic and they aren’t even signed up for another season yet. I mean, really. This is why people don’t get excited about current shows, because so often they let us down, bad. But I’ll absolutely watch season two if it ever comes.

On my phone

An extremely zoomed-in photo of ME doing my very first interview for work! Just a proud little ‘me’ moment I wanted to remember ❤️ 

In my earbuds

As almost ‘on top of’ The Secret Lives of Mormon Wives that I was, I am equally behind in almost everything music. At least Sabrina Carpenter’s new album came out this quarter?? “Taste” has been stuck in my head all week. I know, I know, it was the single so everyone has heard it. I. don’t. care. Because I leave quite an impression, too, 5’3” to be exact. YOU’LL JUST HAVE TO TASTE MEEEE, WHEN HE’S KISSING YOU!!!

On my bookshelf

The Midnight Feast by Lucy Foley. This is October’s virtual book club pick! If you were interested in joining, I’ll be announcing the official date later this week so you can RSVP and I can get those dates on all of our calendars.

In my head

We made Bingo cards for our binge of the Mormon Wives TV show, and I got totally inspired by those old memes that were like, “That one kid at a fancy restaurant starter pack”, or “Midwestern girl starter pack” to create a personal bingo for me and Amanda. SO FUN. I would absolutely recommend this for friendship bonding and a good, wholesome laugh!

→ What would you add to your bingo card? A few of mine were:

  • “Where’s my chapstick?”

  • Has at least one clump of dog hair on clothes

  • “Look how long my hair is getting!!”

  • Takes three weeks to finish a fantasy book

  • Brings at least two bags to any hangout

  • Wearing at least one shade of blue

  • Talks about her budget

  • Talks about her colon

In my cart

I’m in my ‘growing my hair out’ era. If you’ve known me for an extensive amount of time, you know I go through this phase every once and a while. Sometimes, every year (oops). I chop my hair right around my birthday in March, maybe get one or two more bob-cuts, then try to grow it. And by golly, do I always get too frustrated when it hits about collarbone length and chop it, again, right around March!

This year, I’m making my intentions known for all 27 (!!) of you to hold me accountable. Alert: I’m growing my hair. Amanda swears by a scalp massager and an ACV scrub to prime the scalp for hair growth and you know what? I’m hitting ‘add to cart’ right now.

I’ll pop into your inboxes later this week for more book club info, but for now, take care of yourselves this week!

XO,

Grace